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Johnny Dangerously
02-01-2009, 09:45 AM
Confessions of a Privileged White Male

Yes, I’m middle aged, college educated and, most importantly, white - in an America where that is increasingly an affliction for which one must apologize for. Against the grain of popular opinion I will not.

I believe that modern day America is the richest, most privileged society in the history of mankind. What I don’t believe is that in the 21st Century, these privileges are limited to white males. In a time when there have been more African Americans (I suppose that’s what we’re “allowed” to call them these days – but that is subject to change without notice), females and other so-called minorities appointed to high level cabinet positions, CXO’s of corporations, Generals/Admirals in the military, etc. I have a hard time believing that privilege is beyond the grasp of these folks.

Does racism still exist in American? Of course! Will it always exist? Surely it will! As long as there are children being brought up in families where racism is taught there will be racism. That is a fact of life, deal with it! I did while going to grade school in Georgia where, as a white kid, I happened to be in the minority at the school I went to. I recall a specific event where several older black kids teamed up on my little brother while I was held back and made to watch as they beat him up – because he was white. Did this experience turn me into a racist? Of course not. It did, however, contribute to my life experiences which, in turn, shaped my life philosophy. Fortunately, later in life I had more positive experiences with African Americans and other minorities, both as a child and as an adult.

The bigger question here is whether we have made progress in America and, regardless of what the race baiting politicians and media whores will tell you, the answer is a resounding “Yes!”.

Indeed, we still have a way to go but it must be acknowledged that we are not living in the 1960s where blacks (you were allowed to call them that back then) and whites had separate drinking fountains, restrooms, etc. We are also not living in earlier times where neither women nor blacks were allowed to vote (let alone even begin to consider running for public office).

So, back to the question of privilege. As I grew into adulthood some events transpired in my life (which I take complete responsibility for) that caused me to be out on my own at a very young age. I had challenges with chemical dependency, financial woes, divorce, etc. just like many Americans today. There was however a defining moment in my life that caused me to take stock of where I was and where I was headed. At that point I made a decision to pull myself up by my bootstraps and get with the program to become a productive member of society. Using the military as a personal development and career tool I was able to learn the skills and get the financial means to put myself through college. Not a dime came from family. I admit, I did have some additional help in the way of grants and scholarships due to my poverty at the time, but there was not a single grant or scholarship I received that was not available to any other citizen in the same financial status I was in. In fact, there were several that I did not qualify for specifically because I was white and male. Years spent working full time and going to school at night while also raising a family and meeting my obligation in the military eventually yielded me great rewards. I came from a poverty stricken background in which I literally had to walk to work because I had no other means of transportation, was always just one paycheck away from being tossed out on the street, to pulling down a six figure paycheck and having a net worth well above the national average for my age.

Let’s consider the “privilege” I had in this quest. Again, due to my own life choices, but nevertheless, I dropped out of high school at age 17 with only a 9th grade education (yeah, do the math – I wasn’t exactly a Rhodes Scholar in those days). The Army forced me as a condition of my enlistment to get my GED. I later decided that, since ditch digging and fast food were not my aspirations in life, I needed more of an education. My family did not contribute a dime to my college education. In many instances I was ineligible for grants and scholarships due to the fact that I was “too white”, “too male”, or made too much money, which was most puzzling since definitely I wasn’t feeling all that money coming in. Eventually I made it through not because of my whiteness or maleness, but in many cases in spite of it.

So, what does America owe anyone of any ethnicity, religious preference, or gender? First, let’s start off stating what it does not owe us. We are not entitled to any other means of transportation other than our own two feet. We should not expect a TV, a cell phone, a stereo, money for our vices, or any other non-essential items. We are not owed the privilege of dining out twice a week and being able to go to the movies whenever we want.

The basic rights we should have as Americans are that we should have a strong and secure country with borders that will be respected by other countries and non-citizens.

We should have immigration laws that protect America’s interests first, but also allow the same opportunity to other members of the world have as long as they go through the proper legal channels.

We should have safe and ubiquitous avenues of travel in the way of Interstate & state highways, and secondary roads as can be afforded by the localities.

We should have a government as free of fraud, waste, abuse, and corruption as is possible in a free society.

We should have freedom to live and express our religious and political views regardless of whether they agree with the current popular culture or not.

We should have a free market place in which we can all have a chance (note that I did not add the word “equal” in here – more on that later) to find our fortunes by providing goods and services that are useful to society and bring value back to the community.

We should have the right to educate our children in whatever way we see fit and not have them socialized by our public school system by teaching skewed moral values with no balance or offsetting opinions on fundamental life issues.

Yes, I'm white and male; and yes, I'm privileged. But NOT because I'm white or male, I'm privileged because I live in the greatest country in the history of mankind....

Remphoto
02-01-2009, 10:09 AM
A truly inspirational "Horatio Alger" story! Well said. Thanks for sharing.

Johnny Dangerously
02-01-2009, 10:15 AM
Yeah, I know it was a bit long, but this is exactly why I have very little tolerance for folks who talk about the "downtrodden" and the "poor".

The genesis of this was during the e-mail a female co-worker of mine forwarded an e-mail to me complaining about "privileged" white males. I went through the freaking roof! So, in response I sent her an e-mail with this same basic message.

To be sure there are folks who need help, but they are a miniscule minority of people who have mental health issues, etc. When you see/hear so many success stories in this country I have a hard time feeling sorry for people who's lip are permanently wrinkled from continuously being fixed to the public teat...

Remphoto
02-01-2009, 10:39 AM
When I was in college in the early '70s the Liberal Arts curriculum was just that -- ultra-liberal (as undoubtedly it still is). I took one course that set out to prove that the American Dream was dead. It made fun of rags to riches stories and basically taught that folks need government to help them. Even in my at the time fallen liberal state I knew this was BS. I was paying my way through college by working 3 part-time jobs and working 60 hour weeks during the summer. Certain minorities in my classes were getting free financial rides. I had a feeling of self-sufficiency which was marvelous. I followed this model for my kids, providing little financial (but lots of emotional support) during their college years and they thank me for it now, as I thanked my Father. My son married the daughter of a wealthy former professional golfer who is worth millions of dollars (some of you would know who he is if I told you, which I won't). To my pleasure my son and daughter-in-law will not take assistance from him as they are building their own life. To me that is living the American Dream.

Johnny Dangerously
02-01-2009, 11:48 AM
When I was in college in the early '70s the Liberal Arts curriculum was just that -- ultra-liberal (as undoubtedly it still is). I took one course that set out to prove that the American Dream was dead. It made fun of rags to riches stories and basically taught that folks need government to help them. Even in my at the time fallen liberal state I knew this was BS. I was paying my way through college by working 3 part-time jobs and working 60 hour weeks during the summer. Certain minorities in my classes were getting free financial rides. I had a feeling of self-sufficiency which was marvelous. I followed this model for my kids, providing little financial (but lots of emotional support) during their college years and they thank me for it now, as I thanked my Father. My son married the daughter of a wealthy former professional golfer who is worth millions of dollars (some of you would know who he is if I told you, which I won't). To my pleasure my son and daughter-in-law will not take assistance from him as they are building their own life. To me that is living the American Dream.

That's impressive and speaks a lot to your child rearing ability! I'm not sure I wouldn't have tried to take the easy way out had it been offered to me, it's just that it never was, so I never had to make that choice. I've often said that the silver lining in my life was that I didn't grow up a rich kid. Otherwise I may not have been forced to develop the survival skills and work ethic I currently have.

Is this the same son who's in the service? He sounds like a pretty impressive guy. You have a lot to be proud of....

Remphoto
02-01-2009, 12:37 PM
That's impressive and speaks a lot to your child rearing ability! I'm not sure I wouldn't have tried to take the easy way out had it been offered to me, it's just that it never was, so I never had to make that choice. I've often said that the silver lining in my life was that I didn't grow up a rich kid. Otherwise I may not have been forced to develop the survival skills and work ethic I currently have.

Is this the same son who's in the service? He sounds like a pretty impressive guy. You have a lot to be proud of....

Sure is -- he is in the Florida Army National Guard, previously serving in the Ohio Air National Guard, and is also a police officer in a large city in Florida. He is headed for his 3rd tour of the Sandbox in the not to distant future, has provided security for Air Force One in Jordan and has done lots of other things, most of which he cannot tell us about. Equally proud of our daughter who supported her husband while he attended college (he is an Iraq vet also) and was just rehired by a previous employer who just laid off 25% of his workforce (he knew she would do the work of 2 people). Thanks for letting me brag a little.

Johnny Dangerously
02-01-2009, 12:48 PM
Sure is -- he is in the Florida Army National Guard, previously serving in the Ohio Air National Guard, and is also a police officer in a large city in Florida. He is headed for his 3rd tour of the Sandbox in the not to distant future, has provided security for Air Force One in Jordan and has done lots of other things, most of which he cannot tell us about. Equally proud of our daughter who supported her husband while he attended college (he is an Iraq vet also) and was just rehired by a previous employer who just laid off 25% of his workforce (he knew she would do the work of 2 people). Thanks for letting me brag a little.

You have every reason to be proud.

MYCAR47562
02-02-2009, 07:41 AM
It's Slowly Becomeing Common Knowledge That The White Male Has To Work Three Times Harder To Get Anywhere

nelson
02-02-2009, 09:18 AM
The defendant is found: Guilty.

I hereby sentence you to greater challenges and less recognition for overcoming them. You shall have difficulty securing jobs that are freely given to innocents. There will be no hesitation to tax you at ever increasing rates, in order to provide for those who are not guilty of such blatant over-privilege. Your masculinity is to be ridiculed, and we will do our best to stamp it out in the images of popular entertainment, advertising, and media.

The silver lining is... having to fight all these things will actually make you stronger. The innocent victims of various other colors and genders will, over time, accustom to more convenient conditions, while you, my guilty friend, will have to work harder to earn the same things. And this will make you better.

nelson
02-02-2009, 09:32 AM
The irony is the net effect.

Social policies that intend to help certain groups of people... actually harm them. Dependence is encouraged. Capability requirements are lessened. Expectations are lowered.

Meanwhile the white male must work harder for the same opportunities. Independence of action is required. Full potential is expected.

This will have the unintended net effect of strengthening the white male, and weakening others.

Johnny Dangerously
02-02-2009, 09:44 AM
The irony is the net effect.

Social policies that intend to help certain groups of people... actually harm them. Dependence is encouraged. Capability requirements are lessened. Expectations are lowered.

Meanwhile the white male must work harder for the same opportunities. Independence of action is required. Full potential is expected.

This will have the unintended net effect of strengthening the white male, and weakening others.
Words of prophecy from the master... :cool: Excellent discourse.

cajun
02-03-2009, 06:21 AM
I know what you mean guys, i worked my way through 7th grade on my own. :rofl

The G
02-09-2009, 10:04 AM
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